3 Questions To Ask Before Having Hard Conversations With Your Worship Team
Any time you're a leader of anything, there are going to be problems that you have to solve. Leaders are problem solvers.
And sometimes, solving those problems means having to have difficult conversations with worship team members. Conversations about not showing up to rehearsal on time. Conversations about not being prepared. Whatever it is, GOOD leaders are not problem AVOIDERS, they're problem SOLVERS.
Here are 3 questions to ask before having hard conversations with your worship team:
1 | How would I want this information to be told to me if I was on the other side of the conversation?
It seems simple but put yourself in the other person's shoes. If you were on the other side of the conversation, how would you want the other person to communicate? Probably with grace, compassion, understanding, and clarity. So, make that the lens through which you view the conversation.
2 | What is the objective truth?
Simply put: Speaking truth is the most loving thing you can do in all situations. And I'm not talking about YOUR version of the truth. I'm talking about the objective truth. Here's what the objective truth sounds like: "Hey. Our worship rehearsals start at 6:30 and I noticed that you've been showing up around 6:45. That sets the rest of the team back when that happens. Can you show up at 6:30 from now on?"
Ephesians 4:15 says that speaking the truth in love will result in maturity of the body of Christ. 1 Corinthians 13:6 says "Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth." There is no caveat to that statement. Truth is truth, whether it is comfortable or uncomfortable, easy or hard. It gets everything into the open and frees things up for a more productive conversation.
3 | What are the steps that lead to redemption?
Notice that leaders are problem SOLVERS... not just people who point out problems. If you are going to point out a problem, also make sure you can clearly articulate the steps it takes to fix it. For example, if someone is never prepared to lead, ask them what you can do to help them get prepared. Do they need chord charts earlier? Do they need additional training? Work with them to find a solution.
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